Living and working together can be hard, but there is an upside – you get to work with the person who knows you best, and cares most about your interests.
Hi. My name is Sarah and I’m a 27-year-old-Athenian living in Berlin. I’m an artist and together with my husband Robert, we run two companies. People often wonder how we balance our work and private lives while still remaining professional and very much in love. I felt like sharing our story might inspire other couples to do the same, and stop people from making assumptions about couples who work together. A girl can dream, right?
Working together with my husband makes me feel safe
I entered the music industry when I was 19 years old, and still very naive. I didn’t have a terrible experience – far from it. But I became way more suspicious and careful with my professional encounters. The music world can be very flaky – people talk, people listen, people forget about it all the very next minute. It’s almost impossible not to develop trust issues when you’re walking on such unstable ground. Meeting Robert and starting to work with him was the best thing that could have happened to me. We met for work, literally. He contacted me after I invited him to like my artist page and asked me some details about my upcoming projects. Since we were both in Berlin, we decided that it would be better to meet up and talk about it all in person. After two coffees and many cigarettes, I may not have known at that point that this guy would become my husband, but I knew that I wanted to work with him and get to know him a bit better.
After three years of being together and having spent pretty much every single hour with each other, I know there’s no other person who understands my work and vision and can communicate it all to the outside world any better than Robert. At the same time, I know that there’s no need for us to lie or try to please each other for the sake of an agreement or a peaceful day at work. Working with my husband means that I can be 100% myself, and so can he.
Not mixing „personal stuff“ with work is strengthening our bond
Just like how other people don’t mix their private and professional lives and/or bring their personal “problems” to work, neither do we. It amuses me when people assume that we couples cannot be trusted when working together. Every couple is different, and for us it’s become very easy to balance our work and private life. Of course, there have been times – mostly during our first months of being together – in which we struggled changing hats between the two. But we learned quickly and there has been no single time that our relationship affected our professionalism, something that has made us stronger and able to tackle anything that comes our way, both at home and work.
Always being able to coordinate our work and our off-days
It might sound superficial, but it’s true. We never had to go an extra mile or make any sacrifices in order to coordinate an off-day. And although we’ve been working so hard that we haven’t taken any holidays, we know that this is the deal for the both of us. It’s not that one of us could be chilling on an island while the other one has to work. Partnership in our case has a full and total meaning – we’re in it all together, no matter what.
Working together has helped us set family goals
To me, that’s the most important thing, because Robert and I are totally on the same page. We know where we want to be and we can work towards our aspirations in life. And we can do this together. Sharing the same dreams and understanding that every step we’re taking is getting us closer and closer to our mutual goals has been eye-opening for the both of us. We look out for each other, we help each other to stay focused. Sure, there are moments when we’re low, but what’s the greatest lift other than knowing that the person beside you will do their best to see you happy?
I’m not trying to preach that all of you should start working with your partners. This is a lifestyle that Robert and I have chosen for ourselves (yes, it’s a lifestyle), along with some other couples we know. I guess, all I’m trying to say is that next time you meet with a couple who also happens to work with each other, don’t assume the worst about them, and if you’re one of those power couples, take some more pride in your relationship and don’t hide it because you’re afraid people might assume the worst about you. Together you’re stronger!